Feeling Insecure?

If you’ve ever felt insecure raise your hand. I’m pretty sure you just raised your hand because insecurity is a part of everyone’s daily struggles. The thing is, you don’t have to feel insecure about yourself.

Society says that every girl should wear a size two skinny jean and and an extra small size shirt. Society says that every girl should wear makeup because if they don’t, you’re ugly. Society says that every girl’s hair should look like they are in a movie. Society says that if your teeth aren’t white, you’re disgusting. Society tells girls that we need to be perfect and that we can’t be who we are. If you follow the “rules” of society, why do you? Do you want to be just like to the girl to your right and your left? Do you just want to be that girl who is always overlooked? Or do you follow the “rules” of society because you want to fit in?

The truth is that you don’t need to be just like everyone else. You don’t have to be a twig. You don’t have to wear the cutest clothes. You don’t have to look like you just walked out of a movie scene. You don’t have to be perfect because newsflash. No one on this whole planet is more perfect than you are. Everyone has their own flaws that are different than others, but that doesn’t mean you are less perfect then they are.

You may be overweight. You may have yellow teeth. You may have hair that just can’t be tamed. You may not have the cutest clothes. You may not wear makeup every day.

Just because you don’t look or act like everyone else you are going to tear yourself down? Is it really worth it? Do you think that the guy you like is going to pick you out of a sea of girls if you look the same as the others? Do you always want to be overlooked when it comes to auditions or competitions? I’m pretty sure you do not want to be just like the girl next to you, but you do it anyways.

No one should feel insecure about themselves because God made all of us differently for a purpose. God doesn’t want us to look like each other.

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing a perfect.” -Romans 12:2

Don’t let the weight of the world tell you you aren’t good enough or because you are different you should be insecure about yourself. Being different is okay. Being different is outstanding. Always be happy with yourself and don’t change who you are. Be the person who changes the world, and don’t let the world change you.

“You don’t worry about fitting in when you custom made.” -Liza Koshy

Remember, if you feel like you are alone, you aren’t. There is always someone out there who is going through the exact same thing that you are.

Worried?

Have been worried about a big test coming up soon? Maybe an audition or a performance? If you are, you are not the only one. In fact, I’m worried about a HUGE audition right now. Well, it might not be huge to you but it is huge to me. I am auditioning for a dance team that my school has, and get this, they are probably performing in the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade! If I blow it today, I blow the shot of ever being able to be in this parade.

When I’m nervous I turn to scripture to see what God has to say about it.

Matthew 6:25-34 says “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you-yoy of little faith? So do not worry, saying, What shall we eat? or What shall we drink? or What shall we wear? For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will   be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

The Lord says that we should not worry because worrying will do us no good but will only make us feel worse. He also says that when we worry it won’t add a single hour to our lives so why should we worry? The birds and the flowers are fed and kept alive, and are we not much greater than them?

Today while I was talking to my teacher Mrs. Amy, she said to me that if I don’t make this dance team, there is a reason that God will not let me be on this dance team because there is something greater in the future. Also, if I make the dance team, she said that it is God’s will and that that is what he wants for me.

Even if you are worried about something coming up or something in the past, always know that you are never alone. God is always with you and there is always someone who is going through the same thing that you are.

You are not alone.

“For the sake of his great name the Lord will not reject his people, because the Lord was pleased to make you his own.” -1 Samuel 12:22

 

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Who Are Your Real Friends?

Have you ever asked yourself who your real friends are? Or maybe you had to ask yourself if you should be hanging out with them because of their actions.

Finding real and true friends can be a difficult thing to do. Especially if you go to a school like mine. At my school there are a lot of people who seem to be nice when you meet them, but when you actually get to know them, you find out that they are not the person you thought they were.

I used to have a “friend” who was super nice to me for a long time, but then when my best friend met her, she dropped me for her. I tried to be her friend time and time again, but every time we would get close, she would drop me again. Eventually I just told her that I couldn’t be friends with her because she had hurt me so many times. Now, she is being nice to me, but I don’t want to get myself back into what had been going on. Don’t get me wrong, but of course if she tries to talk to me I will talk to her because you shouldn’t just ignore someone no matter how badly they have hurt you. At this moment and time, we are basically acquaintances.

If you want to find out who your real friends are, here are some easy questions to ask yourself:

1. Does your friend honor their words with actions?

2. Does your friend find time for you in their busy schedule?

3. Does your friend laugh with you, but also cry with you?

4. Does your friend remind you of who you truly are underneath it all?

5. Does your friend give you permission to be yourself?

6. Does your friend make you better, not bitter?

If you find yourself checking off all of these boxes for your friend, they are most likely a true friend who will stick with you through anything.

“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” -Proverbs 18:24

Remember, you are never alone. There is always someone who can help you and someone who is going through the same thing that you are.

Stabbed in the Back?

Have you ever been stabbed in the back? I was recently stabbed in the back by two friends.

At the beginning of the school year I met this girl names Kendall. No one wanted to talk to her because she was VERY weird, but I gave her a chance. There is also this boy names Cross who I had liked since I was in sixth grade. As I became friends with Kendall, she became friends with Cross. Time and time again I would always see her hanging out with Cross and flirting with him. Of course I got jealous because Cross was never that nice/flirty with me. So about three weeks ago, I was in Washington, D.C. with my school and while we were out sightseeing, Cross asked Kendall out. Of course I was crushed. Ever since then, Kendall has not been exactly nice to me and neither has Cross. So I cut them out of my life because I didn’t want that negative attitude to influence me. I am happy that Kendall and Cross are now dating, but I was only upset because of one thing. The one thing I was upset about was that the night before he asked her out, she told me she didn’t like him in that way and that she would never date him because she knew that I liked him. Also, that same night Kendall told me this, Cross told me that he wasn’t ready for any relationship. That is the only reason why I was upset because they lied to me.

If you have been stabbed in the back here are some easy ways to help you get through it.

  1. Don’t let the person/people who stabbed you in the back get to you.
  2. Kill the person with kindness.
  3. If that doesn’t work, just cut them out of your life because you shouldn’t have that negative influence.
  4. If that doesn’t work and it escalates, get an adults help if you are younger.

“And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” -Romans 8:28

Remember, you are never alone no matter what is going on 💗

Feeling Alone?

Do you ever feel alone? Ever feel like you have no friends and no one likes you? Maybe you just got into a big fight with your friend and you haven’t made up yet. I know what it feels like. Being alone or feeling alone isn’t fun at all. Most of the time when you are alone you just want to be alone in your room and cry. The thing is, when you are alone if you just go up to your room and isolate yourself from everyone, it won’t fix being alone. When you feel alone you should go outside and try to socialize. I know that it can be hard because when you are alone you are sad. Most people when they are alone go into dark places emotionally and don’t come out for a while. Even though you may want to go into those dark places, like I said it won’t fix being alone. Go to the park, the mall, or maybe call up a friend that you haven’t talked to in a while. It might be hard but it will make you feel better. Also, if you feel alone, just remember that God is always with you. god never leaves your side. Remember, we will make it through this together.

-Emma Stephens💗

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

“Being alone does not mean that you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone.” -Unknown

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41: 10

 

Stressed?

Are you stressed? I know I am! Being stressed can cause more stress. The question is, what causes stress? If your a student it can be too much homework or what you are going to wear. There are many stress causers. Stress can lead to making you emotional, have unusual behavior, and can even cause pain. Yeah yeah, I know that it is hard to not be stressed and it is even harder to stop being stressed. Even though it is hard to stop being stressed, there are many different ways to help it. If you are struggling with procrastination, you could get a planner and write down what you need to do and what day to do it. Just make sure that you make a time in the day to finish what you need to finish. If you are in the middle of a big fight with you friends, try to get out of it and just say what you need to say. I know that this can be very hard but you can do it!

Remember, God is always watching over you and will help you when you need help.

Trust in the Lord with all you heart ; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take. Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom…

Proverbs 3:5-7💗♰

Girl Drama…

Have you ever been in a situation when you have to decide who is your better friend? If you have, welcome to the club. In the teenage years, there is a lot of girl drama and friend drama. You may be friends with boys and you may be friends with girls. Maybe you are even friends with both! Some girls get upset if you hang out with other friends more than you hang out with them. I know it can be frustrating but, you don’t have to make a decision on who you want to be friends with the most. Your friends may tell you to choose who you want your friend to be. It can be very hard to not give into peer pressure but, you can fight it. You shouldn’t let your friends make your decisions for you. You are your own person and can make your own decisions. The good thing is that you don’t have to choose who you want to be friends with, you can be friends with all of them. What you can do is you can hang out with all of your friends at the same time or at different times. You do not have to give into peer pressure. 💗